According to the text there are two concepts of listening: mindful and mindless listening. Each of them has certain advantages and disadvantages. The first one â€œoccurs when we react to others’ messages automatically and routinely, without much mental investment. Words like â€œsuperficialâ€ and â€œcursoryâ€ describe mindless listening better than terms like â€œponderâ€ and â€œcontemplateâ€. The other one â€œinvolves giving careful and thoughtful attention and responses to the messages we receive.â€. Mindless listening is typical and even needed when we hear some remarks. For example, when my mother tells me not to forget to feed my cat I would rather automatically listen and respond to that. Also, people demonstrate mindless listening while long-winded stories. My friend Joanne loves telling her â€œbreaking-up-with-Bill-storyâ€ every day. Of course, I cannot always listen to all that attentively. I would rather pay my attention to her studying problems and thus demonstrate mindful listening. Mindful listening is vital to improve relationships with others. When I meet new people, I am usually very attentive to remember everything they tell me. Remembering their names is very important to me so that I could avoid any kind of misunderstanding later.
My worst listening habit is pseudolistening. People usually think that I am a good listener and to some extent I am. Nevertheless I often suffer from my reputation of a good listener. It attracts more and more people to tell me the stories of their life. Therefore, the only way out â€˜to survive’ is to pretend I am listening to them. To my mind my pseudolistening affects me firstly â€“ I do not know when to stop a speaker. Luckily it does not affect my friends and people around me, for they do not even have a clue when I imitate listening.
My questions to both concepts are following. Is there any harm for the mindless listener? Is there a connection between mindless listening and low grades? Can anybody avoid conflicts while listening mindfully? Is the undivided attention an obligatory condition for mindful listening?